When you find out that you are going to be a parent a slew of emotions come flooding in:
The truth is that when you get the news, you check that little stick... and it has two lines or a plus sign, your heart skips a beat - because the life you knew is about to change radically. This may be difficult to wrap your head around, for some of us it takes up until the birth and you actually have your new baby in your arms to feel a little better.
What we want you to know is that there is no right way to feel, you must feel the way that you do, but we have years and years of experience with babies and have some helpful hints to throw your way.
STOP STRESSING OUT
Babies do not come with instructions, not one single baby on the planet is born with instructions, if it were that simple, everyone would be a great parent and as we well know, this is not the case.
However, since YOU are not the first person to be a parent, then that demonstrates that these feelings of doubt and uncertainty are not just yours. This and you will have several months before you are going to meet your little rock star - which gives you enough time to contemplate what type of parent you want to be.
Parenting is a lot like life, if you have the intention - then you will have the result. We suggest looking back, back at your own childhood and think of what you liked and what you didn't. As children we repeatedly tell our parents that when we are parents we will not be like them - chances are we are right. In 2018, information is everywhere and therefore any question we have - has an answer available in nano seconds. (Thanks internet, smartphones, tablet - technology in general - thanks).
If you are uncertain of something, be your child's biggest advocate by researching what you need to know and there are always ways of evolving and growing as a parent as your child grows along side you.
Most of life is just showing up. Be there. Be present. Enjoy the little moments, the moment your baby first smiles at you or when their eyes light up when you walk into the room.
Most of the trick of life is merely showing up, you do not have to be the best parent, but if you are the parent who is always there for your child, then you are leagues above the rest.
USE YOUR PHONE... SOMETIMES
Do not be distracted by your smart phone or Instagram. We have seen many parents who want to document the entire childhood - this is good and bad. Good because you will have tons of videos and pictures of your child and bad because you are missing out on being present. Like Eckhart Tolle says in the Power of Now, be in the present moment. Allow yourself to see your child, really see them, their beauty, their uniqueness. The only filter should be the love you have for your baby and not the camera.
Everything in moderation.
HOW TO BE A GREAT DAD, MOM OR CARETAKER...
As stated before there is no rule book for parenting, but if you try your best and are continually striving to make this world a beautiful, magical place full of wonder for your little one then you are more than halfway there.
Everyday we encounter things that scare us and worry us, but children help us see the magic that undoubtedly exists in the world, allow them to share that optimism with you and in turn share it with others you encounter.
Please leave a comment as to how you handle parenting and what suggestions you might have for others.